Bernard Nguyễn Trọng thưởng, CMC Phụ Trách
9. Why do white
kids have to leave Asian kids out?
Why do white
kids have to leave Asian kids out? Father, I go to a Catholic
school. My friends give me a feeling that they are my friends,
but they pay no attention to me. Even at lunch, I give them a
suggestion for something but they don't listen. When I give
them suggestion, why don't they listen? We just end up getting
into trouble. I don't like being left out. Some of the boys
are really nice to me but some aren't. They call me names
and say bad things about it. Please help me, I am really confused.
Thanks for spending time with me. (Danthy)
are narrow-minded people. They are insecured and have low self-esteem.
They have to put down people of other races in order to feel good
about themselves. It is unfortunately that there are many of them
in your school which is Catholic, but it doesn't mean that
all white kids leave Asian kids out. They are free to leave others
out but they also choose to choke up their ability to love. This
often develops into hatred for people of other races. Hatred does
not bring happiness it burns up and destroys those who harbor
it. So racists are not happy. You don't want to hang
around with unhappy people. So if they leave you out, then leave
them and look for those who accept you for who you are. If you
want people to listen to your suggestion, think about your suggestion
before you say it and try to explain why your suggestion is reasonable.
No one likes
to be left out. You don't, I don't either. However, there
are groups of people you don't want to associate with. If
they ignore you for no reason, if they call you names for no reason,
if they say bad things about you for no reason, then stay away
from them. They are just a bunch of miserable people who are full
of hatred. Make friends with those who know how to love, who is
truly Catholic in the way they live. Good friends are hard to
find, but don't give up. Jesus is the best friend you must
have in your life. He never ignores you. He never puts you down.
He always accepts you for who you are. He is always there for
you no matter what. Talk to Jesus and get to know him and your
life will be happier. God bless.
10. Is it odd
and bad that I really love
my dad more than my mom?
My name is
Sylvia Ngo and I have read your advice numerous times on TTDM.
Well, my parents are divorced and they are two very different
people. My dad's side of the family is different and horrible;
by that, I mean like stealing, fraud, and has a scary reputation
around our church. On the other hand, my mom's side of the
family is smart, nice and definitely not like my dad's family.
Anyway my question is: do you think it's odd that I really
love my dad more than my mom. Is that bad? Am I allowed to think
like that? Another thing, my dad went to Vietnam and got a fiance.
She is really nice, but I heard that it is sinful for my dad to
do that. Is that true? Well anyway, please give me an answer so
that I can understand. God bless you!
With lots of love, (Sylvia
don't think it's odd for you to love your dad more than
your mom. I suspect that when you were young your dad gave you
whatever you wanted or asked for. Perhaps because of that you
think your dad loves you more. On the other hand your mom might
not always give you what you want for your own good. When you
were young your feeling depended a lot on what you can see. You
did not know that both of your parents love you but they treat
you differently because their understandings of goodness are different.
If you love your dad more just because you simply feel that way
then there is nothing bad about it. However if you love your dad
more because you think your mom love you less than your dad then
it is bad. Anyway, you love your mom more or your dad more is
completely up to you, but you should think about the reason why.
That reason might not be good.
your parents are divorced. My question is: did the Church annul
their marriage? If the Church did, then your dad is free to get
married. There must be a marriage in the Church. Your dad cannot
simply move in with his fiance. This is sinful. If the Church
did not annul your parents' marriage, then your dad cannot
get married. It is sinful if he get married anyway. You are living
in world full of bad examples, I hope you learn the lesson and
do not repeat the same mistake as your parents did. Don't
forget to pray and God bless. Love.
11. Can TV host
speak to the dead?
Is it really Satan who is talking to the host
to convince us that there is no God?
reading Teens Puzzled for a long time now. I like how you answer
other questions very well. I've been watching TV shows like
"Crossing Over and Beyond". In a show, the host spoke
to the audiences' dead relatives and friends. Do you think
that they can actually speak to the dead? Does God let them do
that? Or is it really Satan who is talking to the host to convince
us that there is no God? Thank you very much for answering. God
bless you. Sincerely,
God may allow
dead persons to appear to relatives and friends for some specific
purpose like taking care of unfinished important business, paying
debt... However what was shown on TV only served people's
curiosity more than anything else. The media often creates hoax
and exaggeration for sentimentalism. I don't think you'd
have any benefit from watching such a show. It is possible that
Satan is using those people to undermine people's faith. God