Bernard Nguyễn Trọng thưởng, CMC Phụ Trách
I am in trouble with the law!
Why are there corrupted cops?
know where to begin but what I've gone through in life has
been nothing but sorrow and pain in my eyes. In other words what
I mean is everyone in my family looks at me as a failure. Even
though I've graduated high school, since then I have not attended
college yet. A private college accepted me; then again I was constantly
getting into trouble with the law.
I know God
made man but he doesn't control how they act. Why are there
corrupted cops? I live in the state of Florida, down South in
Miami. Right now there is 10 cops on trial for conspiracy of planting
guns at crime scenes. I was pulled over on a Florida Turnpike
last year. The highway patrol searched my car and pulled out a
sack of weed. I went to court and was placed on probation for
a year. Sentenced by the court I had to attend a substance abuse
class. While I was in this class my urine was dropped every Monday
and Wednesday. One of my results came up adulterated and in another
the counselor said I was tested positive for cocaine. At this
point I was furious and hurt at the same time. Then another three
more months came by and my last two results came up all negative.
others who were also in counseling with me. They were promoted
on to phase three, and I am still in phase two. I suspected
that they paid the officials on the side or so. That I don't
know. At this point I stopped going to this substance abuse class
since I felt like I was being discriminated against. Until this
day I am still caught up by this system that is holding my rights.
Basically probation has isolated me from having a social life.
that concerns me is this Thursday coming up; I have to appear
in court in Port St. Lucie for violation of probation since I
stopped attending those classes. Deep down in my heart those classes
only make me feel depressed. On my own I could stay sober and
clean for my well being not for anyone else. It's been four
months now that I've stayed sober. Friends whom I associated
with before grew distant since I don't smoke any more. It
is even better that it doesn't bother me. I have faith in
God that I'll make it through this whole ordeal.
The two times
I've been in jail and all the financial distress I've
been going through with the law have emotionally wrecked me apart.
My family has a hard time trusting me. My parents accused me of
doing crack. It hurts me to my soul when my own parents accused
me of it.
I read about
your response to Nhi's letter. I also believe that God has
shown his ways in bad things happening throughout my family's
life. My older sister's car flipped over and nothing happened
to her or my younger sister. Not only that both my younger sister
and I was also involved in a seperate accident.
I will end
this email here and thank you for taking the time to read my thoughts
and concerns. God Bless. Sincerely,
Thank you for sharing
your pain and struggle in life. We all have learned that many
hardships come to us because of our own inexperience, being lack
of wisdom. Many of our mistakes cost us and our loved ones dearly.
So we try to learn from that and try to avoid making similar mistakes
in the future. There is corruption in the judicial system of this
country, but it is still better than the one in Vietnam or other
The best thing
you could do right now is try to stay away from drug for good
and to patiently go through all the requirements, clearing yourself
from the trouble with the law. It will be only worse for you if
you keep on resisting like this. Try to do your time and get a
new start for your life. Your experience has shown that only by
doing good that a human being could be happy. Even though bad
things could still happen to us, but no one could blame us and
there is no need to blame anyone. God can turn evil into good.
When everything seems to go wrong, God is the only one who can
make things right ultimately.
May God be
with you through your hard time and don't forget to pray.
What is the difference between a
Catholic and a Christian?
does one get to heaven, and what is the difference between
a Catholic and a Christian? Thanks.
gets to heaven by worshipping and loving God, by loving and serving
God in others.
are those who believe in Jesus as the Son of God, the Savior of
the world. The Catholic Church is the original Christian Church.
However, there are Christians who do not belong to the Catholic
Church because of the divisions in the past. The division between
the Eastern and the Western Churches happenned between the fourth
and eighth century. In the sixteenth century Luther started a
movement separating from the Catholic Church. We called them Protestants
because they protested the Church and left. Luther's followers
later divided among themselves further into hundred and thousands
of denominations such as Old Baptist Church, New Baptist Church...
We can see that division always gives birth to more divisions.
and those belong to the Eastern Churches and the Church of England
are Christians because they believe in Christ, but they don't
belong to the Catholic Church. Catholics are Christian too but
we belong to the original Christian Church which was founded by
Christ. You might ask: If one only needs to love and worship God,
to love and serve others to get to heaven, does it matter if one
belong to the Catholic Church or other Christian communities?
It does matter because Christ founded the Church and diclosed
his intention of how we are to love and worship God: that is through
the celebration of the sacraments. If it does not matter, Christ
would not have founded the Church. I hope this answer your question.
Have I really fallen in love with this boy?
What can I do?
I have been
reading your advice to others and I think that you give really
good advice and you must have helped many people. Well now it's
my turn. I hope you will be able to understand me and help me.
I'm 14 (about to turn 15) and lives in Texas. People say love
is a beautiful thing that can happen anytime in our life. There's
this boy that I've fallen in love with. I can feel that it
is love because there's nothing like it. I've been through
infatuation before and I can tell that this feeling is different.
He also told me that he feels the same way. We've been in
love for about half a year already. Our love is very pure because
we haven't done anything that other people would do to ruin
their purity. We just love each other respectfully. We both believe
that we should be chaste until we get married. I also love him
for that because he is unlike other boys.
you think that all this I'm saying is naive? Most adults think
that people at my age are too young to be in love. Shouldn't
love be free to come whenever it wants to? Or am I just thinking
that I am in love. I pray every night to God asking for help because
I know that I love God and that God judges everything based on
love. I'm scared to tell my parents because they wouldn't
understand me. They would yell at me and lecture me about how
I am too young. But Father, you can't help your feelings right?
What can I do? Thank
you for your time and future advice. God Bless. (T)
for being a good fan of Teens Puzzled. Love between boy and girl
is very mysterious. It is like a spark lit up when two people
meet and they become connected. Sometimes that connection just
fades away; sometimes it stays forever. The love between you and
your boyfriend has a good start. It has a sign of true love.
have heard the slogan "true love waits". You may be
young but your understanding of love is more mature than even
most adults. Your feeling is not wrong because it is guided by
good reasoning and a good conscience. A pure love shows respect
to God who is the source of love and respect each other. True
love protects lovers from spiritual death caused by mortal sin.
As long as you two stay in the boundary of purity, you are in
the right path and love will bring you happiness. If you stray
away from the path of purity, your love would become lust. It
is not true love anymore and it will ruin your life.
Love is like
a beautiful flower. It is very fragile and easily ruined. So you
must be very careful to stay in the boundary. Don't go against
you parents' reasonable instruction. After your 15th birthday
you might want to ask your parents for permission to invite your
boyfriend over for dinner so that they can get to know him. If
you think that your parents are not ready for that then you might
want to wait for one or two more years to do that.
thing is that you have to show your parents that you know your
priority in life. For now, your faith in God, your family, your
study, must come first then your boyfriend comes after. After
you have finished college, the priority might change, but for
now that should be the order of priority. If you let your love
interferes with the order, you might want to question your love
to be true or lie. True love is free but at the same time it should
bring good things to those involved, not ruining life. If it brings
ruin, conflict and separation, that is not true love.
May God, who
is the source of love, give you wisdom and guidance. Don't
forget to pray. God bless.