My Best Friend Left Me. What Should I Do?
best friend whom i've been close friends with for almost 9 years…
is makin 21 this year. i'm also goin to make 21. the thing is..
her bf is i think goin to either make 20 or is 20, i'm not sure.
recently we went to a convention in california for the vietnamese
eucharistic society in orange county. i was hoping that her bf
wasn't goin to go, but he couldn't trust her with us, so he went
to make sure she "didn't flirt or joke around with other
guys." ironically, when we got there, he was the one who
was flirting with another girl and then told his g/f that he liked
that girl. isn't that absurd? but that's not it, he made our whole
trip horrible and always complained about everything. if he didn't
want to go together as a group, he makes her feel bad so she would
stay with him. i mean, he always makes her feel guilty. on one
of the day that we were in kali, we happen to meet a lady who
wanted to tell our fortunes. well, i think she took hers a lil
y. the lady told her that she won't be happy if she marry the
one she loves, but if it's the one that love her, then she'll
be happy. now she left us *her best friends* to be with him and
to marry him even though he treats her so bad! i don't know what
to do, i feel bad that i don't like her bf as much and i know
that it's her decision, not mines for her to be with. but i don't
think she would be happy with him. what should i do? (Sleepie)
seems that you care for the future of your best friend at time.
However, toward the end of your letter, there's a sense of jealousy.
That reminds me of one of Vietnamese sayings: "yêu thì ghen."
And I think that's true… 'cause if we don't love then we surely
I think what you should do at this time, Sleepie:
1. Ask yourself to see if you've said or done anything wrong that
makes your best friend left you. Was it because of the way you've
treated her bf during the trip?
2. Talk to her directly to find out what was going on.
3. Don't hesitate to say sorry if you've hurt her feeling… and
try to make peace with her as soon as possible. 9 years of being
best friend is such a good friendship that you don't want to let
it go away that easy.
4. Respect her decision.
5. Say her a prayer today… and perhaps on the days to come.
say you and your best friend a prayer tonight. May God mend your
friendship… and one more thing sleepie… don't trust what the fortune
teller tell you. Trust in Jesus!